Change Your Life in 90 Days Using These Principles
Much of the Pamela Shaw curriculum is built around 90-day time frames. Changing lives happen in small, intentional steps. To create new habits and bring real change, all you need is 90 days. To help facilitate these changes, there are 7 principles to abide by in life that successful people have employed for years in our life coaching services. If you are looking to change your life, this is where the work starts.
The 7 Principles to Create Change
1. You can change ANYTHING in 90 days.
We have seen this play out time and time again during classes. People come in and feel unsure if they can really make notable changes in such a short amount of time. Decisions lead to actions which turn to habits. Establishing intentional decisions and actions lead to better habits. If you want to create real change in your life, start by changing your habits. In just 90 days, you can change a lot. We have seen people change their lives by creating lifelong patterns that help them achieve their dreams.
2. You can’t change what you won’t acknowledge.
Before you can change your life, you have to know what to change. Stepping back and evaluating your life and digging to the real reasons of unhappiness can be painful work. First, take time to notice what things make you unhappy. Is it your job? Maybe it is the quality of relationships with loved ones. Whatever it is, list it in your journal.
Next, take time to really think what you have control of and the ways you contribute to this unhappiness. List those things too. Maybe it is your lack of qualification or education that keeps you in that job. If relationships are an issue, are you dedicating the time to nurturing them? Do you need an attitude adjustment? Write down the things you can do to start change. Taking time to realize and acknowledge where the change really needs to happen is a vital step in creating real change.
3. You can’t live your values until you know what they are.
Do you know what characteristics you value most? Most people have a set of values they live by, even if they do not consciously decide them. Figuring this out takes personal reflection. Pull out your guided journal and write about the things you value. Why do you value them?
To help bring clarity to your values, think about specific experiences that have shown you why it matters. Perhaps you have seen examples of people you loved who personified these values and taught why they matter. Or maybe you have seen bad examples from those around you, showing how lacking that value mattered too. Whatever your values are, list them and why they matter. If you want to take an extra step, include ideas on specific ways you can implement them in your life
4. You do not break a habit until you replace it with a different one.
The fastest track to failure is to just stop doing a bad habit with only willpower and shame. A secret successful people know is that changing your life starts by replacing bad habits with good ones. If someone is hoping to stop spending so much money on eating out each day, they may need to wake up 15 minutes earlier each day to pack a lunch. Another person looking to stop criticizing their partner so much can instead tell that person three things they love about them each day. By replacing bad habits with good ones, you are shifting your focus and using it to change your life. Writing them into your daily planner will help remind you of your goals each morning.
5. Time invested in one area is time away from another; choose wisely.
It has been said that time is the great equalizer. Everyone has 24 hours in a day, but it is up to each person how they spend it. A great quote from Pamela Waldrop Shaw from Breakthrough Academy is “The decisions you make determine the schedule you keep; the schedule you keep determines the life you live.” Be intentional on where you spend your time. If you are choosing to invest your time in one area, you cannot give it to another. Prioritize your goals and let that determine where you spend your time.
6. Change can be hard; the pain of regret is always more painful than change.
Humans are creatures of habit. That means that we tend to do the same things, creating safe patterns and areas that we stay in. Leaving those patterns and areas is uncomfortable, which is hard. At the end of our lives, people tend to regret not doing something because it was too hard. All decisions come with a trade-off; it just depends on if a person is willing to pay the price of being brave.
People have two kinds of regret- either there is regret for doing something and regret for not doing something. Regret weighs on the soul, almost in emotional torture, thinking about what “could have been”. Research has shown that people tend to regret things they did not do more than the things they did do. One study shows how that goes an extra step showing that the biggest regrets come from who we wish we had become but didn’t. Who a person fails to become is often an extension of actions they did not take. Living with that regret is much harder than the pain of change.
7. If you don’t intentionally pivot, alter, or shift the direction of your life, it will continually migrate in the same direction.
People who are unhappy with their lives, but do not make any changes, are choosing to stay in their unhappiness. In fact, people who choose to not make any choices are actually making a choice. If there is one thing in life that is sure, it is that change happens. Everything in life is always growing or shrinking, evolving or dying. For those who are unhappy in any aspect of life, not making any changes means that unhappiness will always linger.
When changes come, which they will, view it as an opportunity. To take advantage of these opportunities, it is important to pivot, alter, or shift. Choose to pivot your actions, alter your perception, or shift your choices to create a path to more happiness. When taking proactive steps, people can change the flow of their lives to make more of themselves. If someone is choosing to not take advantage of opportunities to change, their life will keep going in the same direction.
Choose to Change Your Life
If you are hoping to create change in your life in any area, it starts with a 90-day commitment. These principles create the foundation of the Breakthrough Academy by Pamela Waldrop Shaw. They have been proven to help people improve their focus and design their dream life. Change is not always easy, but it is possible if you want to live a better life. View Pamela Shaw’s courses or take a less guided approach with the 90-day planner. Let us show you how you can change your life in just 90 days.